Gwyneth Paltrow is finally telling her truth on an important chapter of her life and that marked pop culture — her divorce from Coldplay frontman Chris Martin in 2016.
Martin and Paltrow were married for close to 11 years before their separation was made official. It marked fans and people in the entertainment industry because of the term “conscious uncoupling” that was used in the announcement.
Paltrow, who married television writer Brad Falchuk in 2018, now says that Martin was never the right fit for her. In a Vogue UK essay, the award-winning actress tries to understand what went wrong and the mistakes that she made that led to the divorce.
The Goop founder did not hold back, and her words might help others in similar situations. The 47-year-old mother of two wrote: “We were close, though we had never fully settled into being a couple. We just didn’t quite fit together. There was always a bit of unease and unrest. But man, did we love our children.”
She then revealed that her 38th birthday was a turning point when it comes to facing reality. A trip to Italy with the musician was a real eye-opener, the Iron Man star continued: “Between the day that I knew, and the day we finally relented to the truth, we tried everything. We did not want to fail. We didn’t want to let anyone down. We desperately didn’t want to hurt our children. We didn’t want to lose our family.”
The piece got really interesting for some when Paltrow got to explain how the former couple reached to the infamous “conscious uncoupling” statement.
The businesswoman shared: “It was an idea introduced to us by our therapist, the man who helped us architect our new future. I was intrigued, less by the phrase, but by the sentiment. Was there a world where we could break up and not lose everything? Could we be a family, even though we were not a couple? We decided to try.”
Paltrow was able to move forward by taking charge of what went wrong, and this made it possible for her to find love again. She claimed: “It’s very different for every couple, but it meant, more than anything, being accountable for my own part in the dissolution of the relationship. There existed aspects of myself I was trying to heal through this relationship that I wasn’t honest with myself about. I had been blind, guarded, invulnerable, intolerant. I had to admit that and be brave enough to share it.”
Some supporters want to hear Martin’s side of the story. One of them stated: “Such an interesting one, even if she speaks for herself)) He loved her very much, even adored her. This can be seen both in photographs and in his work.”
Martin started dating Fifty Shades actress Dakota Johnson in 2017.